So as you all know, I'm obsessed with Pinterest...and I found this gem there today and got to thinking about my own life and my own relationship.
And I realized that some of the things on here, my hubs and I are totally guilty of. Shame on us, and with the wonderful season of lent upon us...I think we will not only work on our relationship with God, but our relationship with eachother!
So in response to Dan's 16 ways be blew his marriage...here are 16 ways that I will try to avoid blowing mine.
1. Don't stop holding hands....ok, check this one we do and do often!
2. Don't stop trying to be attractive. I admit, with the cold and gross weather when I'm home I don't always get myself put together. But this is an easy one that I can fix!!
3. Don't always point out weaknesses. Hmmm, this will be a hard one since David's weakness of procrastination may be impeding our future. But I guess I can try...
4. Don't stop cooking for eachother...ok, check. We still do this one as well.
5. Don't yell at your spouse. Hollering for another cookie from the couch is bad manners, ugh...even with a 50m2 apartment I totally find myself doing this. Having grown up with a younger brother, his job was to do all my dirty work while I lounged languidly (alliteration...yay me) on the couch. I guess I shouldn't make my poor hubs be the slave I made my bro be. Ok, David, you're getting an upgrade. From now on, I will drag my sorry ass off the couch to get whatever I need**.
**Unless one of the dogs are sitting on my lap, it would be absolutely terrible to disrupt them!!
6. Don't call names. I must sound like a mah-jor bitch because I am constantly nagging on poor David....but I guess I will try to curb that. But again, I can't help it if he's impossible to deal with sometimes.
7. Don't be stingy with money. Ok, check...we already do that. We have our budget and mostly stick to it. So here we are good!
8. Don't argue in front of kids. Our fur babies don't understand english, ok that's a lie....they totally do, but they don't mind if we argue. SO we're good here! And hopefully soon, when the stork finally decides to make it all the way to MONACO to drop off our baby, we will definitely NOT argue in front of her. You hear that Mr. Stork...we will be the best, most amazing, most deserving parents ever. So how's about you pay us a visit, ok??
9. Don't encourage one anther to skip working out. Check and check...this we totally do not do. Normally we are trying to encourage one another TO work out.
10. Don't poop with the bathroom door open. Ok, I'm not even going there...Done and DONE....
11. Don't stop kissing. Check and check....we smooch everywhere we go. Restaurants, trains, planes, automobiles. HELLO I married a Brazilian, he's totally into the PDA thing!! YAY for moi!
12. Don't pressure one another. Oh, you mean my expectations of David supporting me fully after having our baby is pressure? Ok, sorry...I will stop doing that.
13. Don't stop having fun together. Not gonna lie, we're in a rut....it's pretty bad. I mostly blame it on the weather. Oh and the fact that we just took a 1 month vacay to the US and Brazil, so funds are pretty tight. But I'm telling you, if we don't do "something fun" to get out of the house next weekend, I may commit suicide (please all of you serious ppl out there, this is a joke, I value my life WAyyyyyy too much to do something as silly as that). But yea, seriously, we need to do something fun and SOON!
14. Don't label eachother with negative labels. Ah, that sounds easy enough, even if David is a lazy idiot. I totally can handle this(again, joking ppl!!)!
15. Don't skip out on things that are important to him. Ok, I won't, wait....what's important to him that I might skip out on?? Hmm, dunno so I'm not going to worry about it!
16. Don't emotionally distance yourself after a fight. Naw, not us....when we fight big we make up big. No distance between us here :)
Now that I have my personal business all out there....how's ur relationship measure up to all these things? Are there some things you should fix? Not gonna lie, I'm pretty proud of my relationship. Not that it's 100% perfect, there's always more work to be put in. So why not start today?
Bonjour, I'm an American Expat living in Monaco here to share my stories, experiences, trials and tribulations but mostly just to have fun. Here you will find anything from food, wine, travel, dogs, fashion, gossip and more....enjoy!
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Monday, February 11, 2013
Thursday, September 13, 2012
First Blog Post
Been living in Monaco since December, 2011 and here's what I've learned so far:
1. American friends who say they will keep in touch are liars.
2. French work ethic is different than the American work ethic.
3. I love to travel, it's what keeps me going.
4. I hate my current job.
5. I have an incredible relationship with my husband that can basically withstand anything.
Let me expand on these:
1. American friends who say they will keep in touch are liars.
With the invention of skype and facetime, keeping in touch with people abroad is BEYOND simple. In fact, I speak more to my parents now that I live impossibly far than I did when I lived 1.5 hours away from them. That being said, of all my say 10 closest friends from Miami I have spoken / skyped with ZERO of them. I even go out of my way to email friends asking to Skype and still nothing. Lesson learned: I had shit friends to start with.
NOTE: I guaran-f*cking-tee what when it's comes time for one of their vacations and they are coming near the south of France one of them will FINALLY want to skype. Guess what, I'll be busy...getting my tan in Italy. SO there bitches.....
Double NOTE: I like my new friends better anyways, SO there again bitches.....(read - yes, my feelings are hurt on a regular basis and I hide my feelings with mean comments)
2. French work ethic is different than the American work ethic.
Well DUH....didn't learn about "Laissez fair" in high school for nothing. This sh*t is still in full effect today. The less work they have to do the better. Even when you're constantly following up, they will still screw something up along the way.
NOTE: I'm 100% sure there are many, many exceptions to this rule...BUTTTTT I have yet to meet or work with them.
3. I love to travel, it's what keeps me going.
Clearly I love to travel, or I wouldn't have been insane enough to move all the way to Monaco. But the more time I spend here, the more opportunities I have to travel within Europe. At this rate (one trip per month)...I've already traveled nearly as much here as I have in the US. This summer we checked out:
-Italy
-Turkey
-France
-Switzerland
and by the end of this month will have checked off Germany as well. Without a trip on the horizon I get pretty depressed. Which just means that I need to start checking airfares....and book our next trip.
4. I hate my current job.
Came here, pretty excited to work on taking this company from an events company to an ad agency. AND ALL OF A SUDDEN my boss wants to change directions completely and now I'm stuck here, working on stuff I'm not passionate about and wasting a TON of time in the meantime. UGH, I'm used to 12 hour days, pressure to succeed, quick and almost always last minute projects. Who in the world ever thought I would miss that? Well, there I said it...I miss it. Bring back the stressssssssss pretty please. And leave this new direction / no direction to the birds.
5. I have an incredible relationship with my husband that can basically withstand anything.
So it turns out moving abroad, not knowing the rules and having to figure out everything on your own will either make or break your relationship. I mean, yea, there were times I thought I was going to claw his eyes out. But now that we can see the light at the end of the paperwork, visa, carte de sejour tunnel....he is my GOD SEND! I do not know what I would have done without him.
And there you have it: my first blog post.
I'm going to keep at this. Telling you about my adventures in wonderland (aka Monaco)...some good, some bad and almost always ridiculously funny. So enjoy :)
1. American friends who say they will keep in touch are liars.
2. French work ethic is different than the American work ethic.
3. I love to travel, it's what keeps me going.
4. I hate my current job.
5. I have an incredible relationship with my husband that can basically withstand anything.
Let me expand on these:
1. American friends who say they will keep in touch are liars.
With the invention of skype and facetime, keeping in touch with people abroad is BEYOND simple. In fact, I speak more to my parents now that I live impossibly far than I did when I lived 1.5 hours away from them. That being said, of all my say 10 closest friends from Miami I have spoken / skyped with ZERO of them. I even go out of my way to email friends asking to Skype and still nothing. Lesson learned: I had shit friends to start with.
NOTE: I guaran-f*cking-tee what when it's comes time for one of their vacations and they are coming near the south of France one of them will FINALLY want to skype. Guess what, I'll be busy...getting my tan in Italy. SO there bitches.....
Double NOTE: I like my new friends better anyways, SO there again bitches.....(read - yes, my feelings are hurt on a regular basis and I hide my feelings with mean comments)
2. French work ethic is different than the American work ethic.
Well DUH....didn't learn about "Laissez fair" in high school for nothing. This sh*t is still in full effect today. The less work they have to do the better. Even when you're constantly following up, they will still screw something up along the way.
NOTE: I'm 100% sure there are many, many exceptions to this rule...BUTTTTT I have yet to meet or work with them.
3. I love to travel, it's what keeps me going.
Clearly I love to travel, or I wouldn't have been insane enough to move all the way to Monaco. But the more time I spend here, the more opportunities I have to travel within Europe. At this rate (one trip per month)...I've already traveled nearly as much here as I have in the US. This summer we checked out:
-Italy
-Turkey
-France
-Switzerland
and by the end of this month will have checked off Germany as well. Without a trip on the horizon I get pretty depressed. Which just means that I need to start checking airfares....and book our next trip.
4. I hate my current job.
Came here, pretty excited to work on taking this company from an events company to an ad agency. AND ALL OF A SUDDEN my boss wants to change directions completely and now I'm stuck here, working on stuff I'm not passionate about and wasting a TON of time in the meantime. UGH, I'm used to 12 hour days, pressure to succeed, quick and almost always last minute projects. Who in the world ever thought I would miss that? Well, there I said it...I miss it. Bring back the stressssssssss pretty please. And leave this new direction / no direction to the birds.
5. I have an incredible relationship with my husband that can basically withstand anything.
So it turns out moving abroad, not knowing the rules and having to figure out everything on your own will either make or break your relationship. I mean, yea, there were times I thought I was going to claw his eyes out. But now that we can see the light at the end of the paperwork, visa, carte de sejour tunnel....he is my GOD SEND! I do not know what I would have done without him.
And there you have it: my first blog post.
I'm going to keep at this. Telling you about my adventures in wonderland (aka Monaco)...some good, some bad and almost always ridiculously funny. So enjoy :)
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